Pretty ProgressiveEveryone wants to be able to please their partner sexually. Being good in bed is a matter of your sexual self-esteem. Many people will study porn or read books about how to be great in the sack to learn skills that will amaze their partner right into their next orgasm. But what happens when sex shifts from the bedroom to your phone? A lot of people worry that their partners won’t be able to get off during virtual sex. So, let’s discuss whether women can have an orgasm from phone sex.
How Women Orgasm
In heterosexual couples, women can still have penetrative sex even if they aren’t turned on, and men cannot. So, in certain situations, women will have sex for the sake of their partner or their relationship, even if they aren’t into it. And, they aren’t into it because they weren’t aroused. Making your partner want you is paramount to good sex.
1.1. What Culture Says
Our culture tends to default to a male-oriented view of arousal. To make a sweeping generalization, most men can get turned on pretty quickly just by images of their partners. And so, a lot of people expect their female partners to be as ready for sex as they are when in reality, that’s very unlikely. Women can take up to twenty minutes to become fully aroused. And since sex lasts about twenty-eight minutes for the average couple, many women were just getting started. Further, research has shown that many men severely underestimate the amount of foreplay that their partners desire during sex.
1.2. Why Phone Sex
What does all this have to do with phone sex? Well, phone sex completely removes the rush straight into intercourse. Hypothetically, both people could be touching themselves the entire time during phone sex, which is a great way to create some lingering foreplay. Instead of racing through sex as many couples do, phone sex forces both partners to open up about what they want, what they like, and the easiest way to get them off. So, the pacing of phone sex and the incorporation of mutual masturbation is uniquely situated to help women orgasm.
Plus, as science has shown time and time again, your brain is your largest sex organ. And phone sex forces you to use your brain in lieu of your physical body.
Getting Your Partner Off Over the Phone
As we already discussed, the pacing is important. Super important. So, should you decide to sprint through phone sex to orgasm, your partner might be left disappointed. Below are some tips for helping your partner get off during phone sex. Better yet, some of the tips that will help you be a better phone sex partner can also up your sex skills in the bedroom.
1.1. The Beginning
The first trick is to start at the beginning. Even though you’re on the phone, don’t skip all the sexy parts. Talk about undressing your partner, kissing your partner—whatever you do that you know drives her wild. If you don’t know, ask exactly what she would want you to do if you were in the same room.
1.2. Sharing the Fantasies
After you’ve set a nice, slow pace, start incorporating some elements of your fantasies—but make sure she’s interested in hearing them first. Talking about stuff you haven’t done together yet leaves room for surprise and excitement. You can also incorporate new masturbation toys that feed into your fantasies, whether it’s a new vibrator or something more exotic, like a dragon dildo. Playing around with the unknown can make a couples’ sex life extra hot—especially because long-term couples often feel like they know everything there is to know about their partner. Discovery is a rare opportunity in long-term relationships, but phone sex gives you a chance to go to new places and experience different things. Don’t miss out!
If you send sexy images back and forth during phone sex, make sure you’re sending something enticing. Check out these tips on how to look your best in a sexy selfie:
1.3. Dirty Talk is the Key
Lastly, don’t worry too much about the silence. If there’s a pause, just listen to the sound of your partner’s breathing, or let her listen to yours. It’s hot, right? You don’t have to fill every second with dirty talk. You’re both likely focused on how good it feels and how turned on you are, so narrating each moment can be a bit of a stretch.
Final Words
If you’re ready to give it a try and you want to find a phone sex partner online, use a website that will protect your privacy and check all users’ ages for your own peace of mind.
