7 Enlightening Books On Narcissistic Abuse

This book is fundamental in the recovery from a traumatic and harsh background. It provides practical advice and concrete guidance about how to manage projection of feelings and toxic messages provided from narcissistic mothers. The book also focuses on healing and working towards developing a strong sense of self and how to set boundaries with mothers in a way that allows the reader to take up her own space while preserving space for her mother. The ultimate message is focusing on ways in which you can change, not your mother.

This book is a collection of essays written by Shahida and has been praised by mental health professionals and survivors of narcissistic abuse worldwide. It offers valuable insights into the tactics of narcissists and teaches the reader not only how to recognize covert abusers but how to combat the effects of abuse.

Narcissistic relationships, which are often characterized by devaluation, invalidation, minimization, manipulation, gaslighting, entitlement, and disappointment can slowly ruin your sense of well-being and ultimately your psychological and physical health. Sometimes leaving is the healthiest option. But sometimes it doesn’t feel like an option, and you may have powerful reasons for staying—for your children, financial security, religious beliefs, or simply because you are in love. In Should I Stay or Should I Go? Dr. Ramani Durvasula gives you the tools to help you stop making the same mistakes. It shows you what to watch for and provides guidance on managing difficult situations. This honest survival manual is based on the real terrain of pathological narcissism and high conflict relationships and it provides a realistic roadmap of how to navigate this landscape and reclaim your true self, find healing and live an authentic and empowered life. Whether you stay—or go.

“Don’t You Know Who I Am?” has become the mantra of the famous and infamous, the entitled and the insecure. It’s the tagline of the modern narcissist. Health and wellness campaigns preach avoidance of unhealthy foods, sedentary lifestyles, tobacco, drugs, and alcohol, but rarely preach avoidance of unhealthy, difficult or toxic people. Yet the health benefits of removing toxic people from your life may have far greater benefits to both physical and psychological health. There are few lives untouched by narcissists. These relationships infect those who are in them with self-doubt, despair, confusion, anxiety, depression, and the chronic feeling of being “not enough,” all of which make it so difficult to step away and set boundaries. The illusion of hope and the fantasy of redemption can result in years of second chances, and despondency when change never comes. It’s time for a wake-up call. It’s time to stem the tide of narcissism, entitlement, and antagonism, and take our lives back.

The author talks in depth about the invisible forces that control who we’re attracted to, how to identify a Narcissistic or Codependent relationship, prevent it from happening, correct your issues, and he paints a picture of what healthy, sustainable attraction looks like so that we can recognize it and not self-sabotage.

I am a recovering narcissist. I wrote this book as a journey guide to people struggling with the root of narcissism which is shame. While this book doesn’t give guidance to people who are presently being abused by a narcissist, it’s intended to help people understand how and why a narcissist functions the way they do. This is important because, often, the one struggling with narcissistic abuse is likely also struggling with their own shame-based issues, which allow the abuse to continue. Both participants in the relationship have the same beast living inside themselves that is manifesting in an almost codependent style of mutual destruction. The goal of the book is to raise this awareness in people so they can take control of how shame is manipulating their own life so they are able to make healthier decisions – decisions not dictated to them by their psychology.

This book goes into detail on the abuse that Alexis faces throughout an 8-year narcissistic relationship. This book also gives hope to those that have gone through the abuse to find love and happiness.